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| Can guys and girls be "just friends"? | |
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| Tweet Topic Started: Jan 2 2007, 08:48 PM (697 Views) | |
| Noname | Jan 3 2007, 06:24 PM Post #21 |
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Glorious Witch
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True, but we are all diffrent. |
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| Julesy | Jan 3 2007, 06:30 PM Post #22 |
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deliciously domestic
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sooo you agree straight males and straight females cannot be more than friends,even just for a bit? |
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| Noname | Jan 3 2007, 06:34 PM Post #23 |
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Then what is friendship I say!? |
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| Julesy | Jan 3 2007, 06:37 PM Post #24 |
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hahah between the same sex i reckon. anything else is risky. You PROBABLY can be friends with someone who is kinda ugly and you hae no slight attaction to.... thats all I can come up with. Yet they will probably like you.....oi |
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| Noname | Jan 3 2007, 06:39 PM Post #25 |
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Glorious Witch
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we're weird. yeah!!! :hug |
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| Julesy | Jan 3 2007, 06:40 PM Post #26 |
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| Noname | Jan 3 2007, 06:52 PM Post #27 |
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| la anaconda de chocolatee | Jan 3 2007, 08:15 PM Post #28 |
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yeah but sometimes after knowing a person well for a long time, you might not have been physically attracted to them but after getting to know them via friendship for a long time they start to look appealing to you and you become attracted to them. |
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| Noname | Jan 3 2007, 09:21 PM Post #29 |
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Glorious Witch
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That's true. I think I a going to have contradict myself. The more I hang around some people the more I start to like them physically. It takes like a week for me to realize that they are just friends and nothing more. |
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| Julesy | Jan 3 2007, 10:53 PM Post #30 |
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deliciously domestic
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SEE! I SAID ITS IMPOSSIBLE! CAUSE IT IS!!!! |
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| Hunter | Jan 4 2007, 04:13 AM Post #31 |
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Loving Life
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Me lost count the amount of times I have seen couples have wars over this exact topic Even though most of the time nothin' freakin' happened !!!!! Its mainly over, cos one of the partners sees the other partners friend as a threat N' then insecuritites begin Fights starts N' it all goes down hill from there Pleassse, dont attack me for sayin' that !!!!! From what Ive witnessed n' experienced myself, that is the case, most of the time Im not sayin' its always the case. Some people sense the threat n' should be weary of it But some are too harsh on those that were not goin' to step the mark Some cases its not that the partner n' friend might get their freak on Its that the other partner, sees the partners friend highly, or they can tell that their partner sees his/her friend highly. Then they start comparin' themselves to the friend n' feel they dont match up for some reason and so begins to feel threaten their lover is goin' to get carried off into the sunset by this friend Lost a so called friend, not long ago, for being with the lovah Im with now He actually tried talkin' me out of my new relationship and tried his damndest to make me feel awful about it. This so called friend, admitted he wanted more from me. He has done this to me a few times, but only been truly honest about it recently. I see clearly now he's only my friend, when he thinks he has a chance of being with me. When Im taken, he acts as if I dont exist. No contact whatsoever. In the end, he said sorry n' that he is happy for me, always wants to be my friend blah blah, that was months ago Total silence since then so dont really believe the kind last words, so he said sorry of lyin' with more lies, yeah clever. Thats no true friend to me. When he comes back, when he thinks Im single again. Good luck mofo' lol Ive been accused badly in the past, of sleepin' with a male friend by my partner at the time Not only did I not do anythin' with mi amigo There wasnt even any flirtin' goin' on !!!!! Years on, my amigo and I still have come no where near makin' moves on each other How I'd love to tell my ex that !!!!!! But no, I'll be nice n' modest It hurt being accused of that n' ooh p*ssed me off like you would not believe We discussed, ok more like argued the matter to death, but nothin' was gettin' through to my darlin' d*ckhead So seein' just how poorly he trusted me and how he was so stubbornly unwilling on sortin' it out, was it for me. I let him go, without a fight. Im not goin' to fight to keep someone that thinks of me that badly You can just be friends with the opposite sex. It can work while you're in a relationship, married etc it depends on your partner but not just your partner, you as well. Your partner n' their friend could live their whole lives not wantin' more than friendship from each other but if you dont believe that, then your relationship wont last. So yah ..... On the other hand Ive also known a few long time friends turn into couples, some resultin' in a few broken hearts n' nasty betrayals Ive been cool with my past n' present lovahs friends of the opposite sex But oooh yah theres been a few I had to watch closely, with good reason. If Im to start a relationship with someone in the future, who happens to not like a friendship of mine. No, I will not end the friendship for them But if their ok with the fact that my friend isnt goin' anywhere. I'll respect them in return I wont just push the matter aside. I'll keep in mind, my partner isnt so great about my friend n' I Find ways I can prove to my partner, he can trust my friend and I, till my partner is comfortable about it all Some of my guy pals are quite good lookin', two of them are models. Noticed the better lookin' my guy pal is, the more some partners, some other friends, sometimes even my own mum and dad find it hard to believe we are only friends. I understand but f*ck it sucks ass when just about everyone believes its more for awhile. When my guy pals n' I hug, as we say hello or goodbye, by some reactions its like we just had a quickie in front of everyone. Not that the hug was sexual, its cos some have us under a microscope. Simple things mean far more than they should to them. Like a hug, c'mon !!!!! So what, cos its a guy friend thats good lookin' that Im huggin', it must mean more ??? I hug all of my friends hello n' goodbye, its not like Im givin' my guy pals special attention. When Im attracted to someone I dont hide it Love or lust I dont n' cant hide it lol Everyone that knows me, should know that about me by now but ehhh I guess not They think Im hidin' this n' that n' blah blah blah with my dude pals lol I said dude So I know you can be just friends with the opposite sex, ugly or not But havin' other people, especially partners trust that its just a friendship is another matter. That, usually doesnt work. What some people see in my friendships with some of the guys, that makes them believe its more, I dont know. All I do know, is we are just friends. So whatever they're pickin' up on is being very misread. Wow, think this is the longest post Ive done in a long ass while.
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| Julesy | Jan 4 2007, 04:38 AM Post #32 |
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wow! good post Huntah! I see where ya coming from. I reckon Im just too cynical now. Being I was friends with my lovah first. I trust noone! I like the long-ness of this post.
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| la anaconda de chocolatee | Jan 4 2007, 04:45 AM Post #33 |
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hunter I read the first half of your post then I gave up cause it was too damn long for me! lol |
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| Hunter | Jan 4 2007, 07:10 AM Post #34 |
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Loving Life
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Nah, not cynical Just depends on your experiences ya know, to then depend on how ya see things :D Same 'ere Michele. I just went to go make sure I made no typos in my post. Stopped halfway lol |
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| Atomic Blonde | Jan 5 2007, 06:59 PM Post #35 |
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ALL of my good male friends are gay. all five of them. so i cant say hahaha. |
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| Noname | Jan 5 2007, 07:13 PM Post #36 |
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So, we all agree on this topic? Damn you, Jules. I was all set arguing against you, but then I saw the light. |
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| Jane | Jan 5 2007, 10:29 PM Post #37 |
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There must be exceptions to the rule though! Maybe it says more about our insecurities with our other halves?? I would hate Rick to have a female friend, even a gay one! That would be weird. I wonder wht straight females and gay males get on so well but it doesn't seem to work with straight men and lesbians! |
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| Atomic Blonde | Jan 5 2007, 11:19 PM Post #38 |
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Ok so being the dorkwad that I am the MINUTE i read this thread the FIRST thing that popped into my head was from one of my fav movies: When Harry Met Sally I think Harry explains it all quite succinctly...
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| Atomic Blonde | Jan 5 2007, 11:20 PM Post #39 |
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And 10 years later....
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| Atomic Blonde | Jan 5 2007, 11:23 PM Post #40 |
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BUT, I will argue with Harry that in some cases they can be friends if they are truly happy with the person they are with AND they dont find the other person even remotely attractive. my ex-best friend used to be great friends with zeb, but zeb literally said that he though her face "sorta looks like a horse" and "she looks like an ugly boy with short hair" but they were still friends. so their ya go. |
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