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The Philosophy of Infidelity
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Denovissimus Jul 31 2008, 02:02 AM Post #101
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i HAVE A FEELING THIS THREAD WILL GO ON FOREVER!

:spin :spin :spin :spin :spin :spin :spin :spin :spin :spin
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Derblutsaguer Jul 31 2008, 03:15 AM Post #102
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:huh That was quite a deep thought Jesse

And :yahoo :yahoo For a Quick fuck!
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la anaconda de chocolatee Jul 31 2008, 03:28 AM Post #103
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One species is absolutely monogamous. In the black darkness of the deep sea, the tiny male anglerfish (perhaps one tenth the female’s size) detects and follows the scent trail of a female of his own species. Once found, he bites his chosen one and hangs on. His skin fuses to hers, their bodies grow together (he gets his food through a common blood supply and becomes essentially a sperm producing organ). They mate for life — a short life for the male



eww!!! :huh that is disgusting!
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Julesy Jul 31 2008, 03:38 AM Post #104
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Know the boundaries, don't make it about greed, make it about need

You give Rick MORE than enough, if he were to stray it would be about greed, and that there would be a problem.

Some couples can love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together, but feel the need to stray for various reasons. For instance, raising a family can be tough, and sometimes the passion is not there when there are so many things to worry about. A quick fuck with no obligations is a form of relief and release, a break from the monotony which often dooms family relationships.


well if thats not about greed I dont know what is. being selfish and fucking around on your partner without them knowing even for a quick no-strings-attached SCREAMS "GREED"
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la anaconda de chocolatee Jul 31 2008, 03:47 AM Post #105
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if your spouse like NEVER gives you any, then I dont blame the cheater all that much, especially if they have tried to have a sexual relationship with the spouse
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I don't think relationships should be based on sex anyway. I think sex in a relationship should be a bonus. Relationships are matters of the heart and the soul, not the flesh. If one cannot get past the carnal aspects of their relationships then they really don't know the heart and soul of their mate.

I'd like you to experiment Jules. Don't give sex to Rick for one week and let's see how both of you react.

You can't do it can you? Because there is too much carnality in your relationship, and that's fine, nothing wrong with that.

I just believe love and sex should be two different things. And the couple that knows and practices that is the couple that will truly endure.
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I would also like to add that I think those who would negatively view certain aspects of infidelity due to their clinging to the church enforced monogamous ideal are so because of insecurity and possessiveness which are damaging character flaws.
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Now I say "certain aspects of infidelity" because I am not advocating a blanket cheat for all. No. Hence the "philosophy of infidelity".
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I don't think relationships should be based on sex anyway. I think sex in a relationship should be a bonus. Relationships are matters of the heart and the soul, not the flesh. If one cannot get past the carnal aspects of their relationships then they really don't know the heart and soul of their mate.

I'd like you to experiment Jules. Don't give sex to Rick for one week and let's see how both of you react.

You can't do it can you? Because there is too much carnality in your relationship, and that's fine, nothing wrong with that.

I just believe love and sex should be two different things. And the couple that knows and practices that is the couple that will truly endure.

hmmmm, jesse from this post it sounds like you are discretley saying that you and miguel never have sex anymore? Or hardly ever?

no sex is not everything, but is a key part, a healthy part, a pretty much essential part. If you love your partner, you should desire them sexually, how can you not unless there is a medical reason or something that kills your sex drive, like from being on a medication or something
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I don't think relationships should be based on sex anyway. I think sex in a relationship should be a bonus. Relationships are matters of the heart and the soul, not the flesh. If one cannot get past the carnal aspects of their relationships then they really don't know the heart and soul of their mate.

I'd like you to experiment Jules. Don't give sex to Rick for one week and let's see how both of you react.


I think sex is part of a relationship. Not soley based on it. Otherwise if there is no sex than thats just like a deep friendship. Maybe Iam basing it on a man and woman relationship. I dont know anything besides that so for you, maybe its a completely different thing.
I for one find it healthy to have sex when you are a couple. Its something you share together.

As far as not having sex with Rick, we didnt have sex for years. Yes, we were good friends in highschool but I didnt sleep with him after I had known him like almost 4 years? We just kept it a good friendship.
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Ofcourse sex is not everything. But it is an important of a relationship,in my opinion.

I'm a very sexual person and I like having sex. Ideally, I would do that with my partner when i'm in a relationship. Ideally, I would be with a person that views a sexual relationshp the same way.

A romantical relationship and a sexual relationship are two differnt things. However, the two can also be intremingled. Sex as an expression of love but, also as fulfillment of "carnal desires" That expression and that desire, i would prefer to act out with my partner and my partner alone.

I personally don't see that as insecurity and possessiveness which are damaging character flaws. Far from it. One might see it in that way, if one came to such a conclusion through their own experience. Every relationship is different.

It depends on who you're with and how you,your partner and your relationship evolve. I might hook up with a guy and be blissfully happy in a monogamous relationship and then some 10 years later,the whole thing evolves into an open relationship,for instance. You just don't know. But, during the time that me and my partner agree on having a monogamous relationship; I would feel hurt if he cheats on me. That has nothing to do with my being insecure or possesive. that would be me hurting because I thought we had an agreement. I would feel betrayal.

Insecurity and possesiveness are subsequent emotions that, naturally could occur in such cases but, are not borne from your own mind. there is always a cause for it. It's up to the individual how much value one places on these emotions
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It depends on who you're with and how you,your partner and your relationship evolve. I might hook up with a guy and be blissfully happy in a monogamous relationship and then some 10 years later,the whole thing evolves into an open relationship,for instance. You just don't know. But, during the time that me and my partner agree on having a monogamous relationship; I would feel hurt if he cheats on me. That has nothing to do with my being insecure or possesive. that would be me hurting because I thought we had an agreement. I would feel betrayal.

Insecurity and possesiveness are subsequent emotions that, naturally could occur in such cases but, are not borne from your own mind. there is always a cause for it. It's up to the individual how much value one places on these emotions


I agree, if the monogamous aspect changes I think you should alert your partner, not just sneak away. Then you are not giving them a fair advantage. Thats a sorry/coward way.

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Rodney Aug 1 2008, 12:12 AM Post #113
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:rocks It's not a good way. It's better to then just...NOT GET CAUGHT! lol

As for cowardice...I guess you can call it that. But, I have seen the bravest of souls and the kindest of people doing the dirty on someone.
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Julesy Aug 1 2008, 12:19 AM Post #114
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cheating unknowingly on your partner is anything but brave.

fess up. coward! :rocks
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Julesy Aug 1 2008, 12:20 AM Post #115
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if you are so brass and brave, get caught!
sneaking is a lame way out.
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Rodney Aug 1 2008, 12:23 AM Post #116
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Have you ever been cheated on by someone you,love?

It becomes a lot less clear, trust me.


Obviously, I don't want you to EVER find out. But, just realise that, things aren't that clear cut. You have to live it to know it.
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Julesy Aug 1 2008, 01:10 AM Post #117
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i have dated in highschool and been cheated on.
lame/suckers way/cowards way out.

Break up with me first. Be brave.
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la anaconda de chocolatee Aug 1 2008, 01:12 AM Post #118
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Have you ever been cheated on by someone you,love?

It becomes a lot less clear, trust me.


Obviously, I don't want you to EVER find out. But, just realise that, things aren't that clear cut. You have to live it to know it.

that is SOOOOOOOOOOOO true, I know it better than anyone but that doesnt mean I think that everyone who is cheated on should forgive the cheater and take them back
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Julesy Aug 1 2008, 01:15 AM Post #119
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I forgive no cheater!

lol

at least thats my philosophy.

I reckon cheating is an asshole theory.

Thats just me :toot
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How about getting cheated on by someone you love more than anything in the world. And that person really regrets their actions and still loves you?

I'm knocking wood, here Jules.Don't worry! I don't want to tempt fate, gurl!
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