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Topic Started: Dec 13 2012, 07:43 PM (801 Views)
Fieryone
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"Soiya! Kachidoki Arms: Iza Shutsujin! Ei, Ei, Oh!"
Is it really that important to have a girl-friend?

Over the past few weeks the question "Why have you tried getting a girl friend?" has been asked by my family (mostly my mother) and because of the fact I haven't actively been searching has seemed to brought up stupid questions about whether I like women or not (which the answer is yes, I like them), and tonight as I was trying to watch Karate Robo ZaBorgar on netflix since I found out that movie was on there, I was met by the whole family making fun of me for it when they all know I like tokusatsu and the like and "lovingly" attaching the insult/phrase "it won't help you get a girl friend" attached to it.

Its just... as much as I'd like to I feel like I'm not ready to be in a relationship, and alongside that I don't have the means to actually well... fund dating, I don't have a job and to be perfectly honest because I feel like I'm not ready I don't actively seek out looking for girls. Granted, doesn't help I don't feel like I'm not all that attractive to the opposite sex after all previous attempts have ended up in failures, and certain events that happened over the summer I've not really told anyone about that only further strengthen my opinion I'm not ready for a relationship with anyone.

I don't know, is it really that important?

Not sure if this is the right place to say this but I just want to get it off my chest, this actually kinda hurt, and I usually don't feel this way when people insult what I like since its not really that big a deal... guess its because its from my own family.
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Code: Kirin!

Getting a girlfriend/dating is not all that important, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

Decide for yourself how you want to live your life, and don't feel like you have to conform.

Also, no offense, but your family is really rude for making fun of your hobbies. Why do they care what you enjoy watching?
Edited by CyborgZeta, Dec 13 2012, 08:32 PM.
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Fieryone
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"Soiya! Kachidoki Arms: Iza Shutsujin! Ei, Ei, Oh!"
This is the first instance in which it seemed like it was a "problem", I don't get why they were acting like since its never been a problem before and they've never acted like it was, and I watch it because I find enjoyment out of it and its more entertaining than most of the crap we got playing on US TV.
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Code: Kirin!

I'm sorry, that came out wrong. What I meant to say was, "Why do they care what you enjoy watching?"
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Fieryone
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"Soiya! Kachidoki Arms: Iza Shutsujin! Ei, Ei, Oh!"
I don't know, it could be because I was watching on my PS3 which is currently being the family Blu-ray player since the other once is a piece of shit and didn't work properly, and so it was on the big screen for all to see.
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Code: Kirin!

Is this the first time they've seen what kind of shows you like to watch?
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Fieryone
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"Soiya! Kachidoki Arms: Iza Shutsujin! Ei, Ei, Oh!"
Not particularly, I've had them up on some of our larger screens from time to time, so its not like this should be any surprise.
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I don't know what to say then. It almost sounds like they're just giving that "usual" attitude some people have towards guys with certain hobbies.

"Oh, you like to play video games/watch anime/etc.? You need to get laid/get a girlfriend."

Like that's some kind of sign you're not really living life.
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Fieryone
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"Soiya! Kachidoki Arms: Iza Shutsujin! Ei, Ei, Oh!"
That's what has me all upset and confused, since well, I play the vidya games, anime, and all that and they've never acted this way before.

Guess it could be some kind of reaction because I'm 21 now.
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Raxtenko
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My assumption is that they might have hoped that you'd have grown out of it by now. I'll just echo cyborgzeta, it's really not that important and if you go rushing into something that you don't feel ready for then I doubt it'll end well.
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Indeed, what Rax and 'Zeta have said. I've been there myself. I went so long between relationships (roughly 5 years, give or take) that some members of my family either poked fun of my tastes chasing away the girls or thinking I was gay (not that there's anything wrong with it, I'm just not). I just didn't want a relationship yet, especially with where I was at the time.
Different story now, what with today being my 6 month anniversary with my girlfriend fiance and all.

I like to think life finds a way in most things - and that includes romance. Something will happen someday, just maybe not now. And that's ok.
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Fieryone
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"Soiya! Kachidoki Arms: Iza Shutsujin! Ei, Ei, Oh!"
That is pretty much my sentiments, I guess this whole incident got me flustered since its not something I've ever had them do to me. Still, doesn't feel good to have your parents and sister do it all at once.
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I can't say much that hasn't already been said. It is far, FAR better to not be in a relationship and be happy, than it is to be in one and be miserable. The reason divorce rates are so high is because too many people rush in to relationships without taking the time to really learn about who their partner is, which leads to the relationship breaking down because the attraction was always a shallow one to begin with.

If you're happy with who you are and don't feel ready to be in a relationship, then you're fine as you are. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
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Nova Zero
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What the others said. Just take your time and don't rush.

Then when you do manage to find your one partner and she happens to like Tokusatsu, laugh at your parents. But don't do that.
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In the long term goal of mankind, survival and spreading your genetical seed? Yes, a girlfriend is important. But the process of getting one doesn't magically happen because you took or failed to take a certain action like watching a movie. The next time someone mouths off at your hobbies, tell them to fuck off and learn a new language.

Your family is being retarded. What's the difference between them watching the latest Batman or Spiderman or Twilight flick and you watching toku? When you boil it down, both are fucking children fantasies and if they want to crucify you for watching toku, tell them to burn all their games, movies and books because those are fiction and won't help them mate. If they try to talk back, hit them in the mouth.
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Fieryone
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"Soiya! Kachidoki Arms: Iza Shutsujin! Ei, Ei, Oh!"
Well, I wouldn't hit my parents, and while I feel it was rather dis-respectful of them to make fun of my liking of toku (to which I have pointed out in the past its not that far removed from what they already watch, just more non-sensical and not serious), I would never hit my parents. I think that is far more disrespectful considering my dad is the one paying for my college and has raised me, as for my mother she's my mother. I think I'd be the bigger douchebag if I hit either her or my sister.
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I think the appropriate response to "(Insert hobby here) won't help you get a girlfriend" is either:
A) "I wasn't aware I had to dedicate every waking moment of my life to giving you guys a grandchild",
B) "If a girl can't accept me for who I am, I wouldn't want to date her in the first place", or
C) All of the above
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XR
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Well, do avoid hitting your parents, that's probably not a good idea. But hey, if you don't take a stand somewhere you'll never be taken seriously and just be pestered constantly about it. You're the one who doesn't want to be bugged about not having a girl/watching children's shows.
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Usually when my parent ask me why I'm not dating or have a girlfriend, I just tell them horror stories about guys that are either on ships or deployed to overseas. XD

I've seen too many guys wreck their career cause of relationship issues. So I just tell them, I'll know when I'm ready for a relationship.
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Dec 17 2012, 06:25 PM
Usually when my parent ask me why I'm not dating or have a girlfriend, I just tell them horror stories about guys that are either on ships or deployed to overseas. XD
Sounds like something some of us single people can use to keep our priorities straight in this day and age. XD
Please, do share.
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ねぷは..自由だ!!!

Homer: Three simple words, I.Am.Gay.

Couldn't find a clip of it. >.>
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Dec 17 2012, 06:40 PM
Homer: Three simple words, I.Am.Gay.

Couldn't find a clip of it. >.>
Will this do?

[utube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HbDlHW5aAC0[/utube]
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ねぷは..自由だ!!!

Very well so, old chap.
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Ex. A guy went on a 13 month deployment. His wife had a baby while he was deployed. We added up the date, and there was no way the baby was his.
Now...he's divorced, but the ex-wife has the kid, so he has to pay child support and she won't do a parternity test to prove he was the biological father.

while another case, their going through a divorce, the wife tried to threaten the commanding officer(no idea why, cause our CO has nothing to do with their divorce), and got disbarred from the base, but because she is still technically his spouse, he and the kids were also banned from living in base housing.

and another case is...a guy after divorce and childsupport ect, he only has about...iirc 200~300 dollar a month of his paycheck left. Cause the state of Louisiana is f*cked up and count the non-taxable (Housing allowance, meal allowance) as part of his income, even though federal law states only taxable income can be considered part of gross income for child support calculation.

and one more which happened while I was at Pensacola. A guy was there for training, and his wife took his kid and ran off with her "boyfriend" iirc they were found in Canada, and now he's fighting for Custody of the kid.

those are just cases I've seen happen to people I know...and it sucks for them.
Edited by strabo100, Dec 17 2012, 11:30 PM.
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strabo100
Dec 17 2012, 11:25 PM
Ex. A guy went on a 13 month deployment. His wife had a baby while he was deployed. We added up the date, and there was no way the baby was his.
Now...he's divorced, but the ex-wife has the kid, so he has to pay child support and she won't do a parternity test to prove he was the biological father.


This guy must of gotten a really bad lawyer, in most states if you're paying child support you can file for a injunction to have a paternity test done, Then said paternity test would be a court order.
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